The internet right now is overwhelmed with messages of hope and despair, often both at the same time. Extraordinary times creates extreme responses—for worse and for better. Sometimes it is mind-boggling that some people can be so cruel or selfish. And yet, it is utterly amazing to witness the self-sacrifice of so many in the face of these difficult times.

For survivors, these times can strike at the core of a history of neglect, betrayal and vulnerability. It may create a return to default positions, bad physical care, the old addictions, and the embedded remembered anxiety and fear.

There is little to say that you have not heard before—about self-care, compassion and kindness now. It can be difficult to care for others by actually taking care of yourself. It might even become more, not less, challenging as this pandemic drags on. Texts, calls, zooms can be exhausting. Sometimes the constant stream of information and social media can make one feel even more isolated. So while you are still in the bunker of COVID, you may not need so many words to be connected with those you trust and cherish. Share a joke or music, share your grief, share your love. It is what community means in a time like this. Be fierce about your kindness. It has what kept your soul in tact.